The last few weeks have been crazy, mentally. The coronavirus has definitely transformed our lives. Although I’m always a homebody, the idea of lockdown still hit me. I remember I nearly had a meltdown at Tesco in Edinburgh the other day when I saw the empty shelves, questioning what on earth has brought this?

At the moment when everything seems to bring sadness, I found it so hard down to love myself, to feel love. When I was at the milk aisle at the supermarket, questioning why all milk is sold out, I find a desperate need of love, the gentle, warming kind of love.

I’m not talking about romance here (although it’s extremely important!), I’m talking about the love that makes you feel supported, nurtured. The love that we all yearn and deserve, the one that makes our lives so meaningful and beautiful. I am sure at this uncertain times, a lot of us are struggling to feel the love - maybe we cannot see our families, maybe we cannot be hugged by children who always display their loves so selflessly. Whatever the reason, I’d like to say that you have the ability to love yourself. And you should make your home the most loving place ever! So today I’d like to explore ways you can bring love - radical self love - to your home, your soul space.

Bring in cushions and throw
Bring to mind your favourite rom-com when the two characters kiss at home, usually there are a lot of soft furnishings around that, isn’t it? It’s the softness of the cushions and throw that gives us a sense of coziness, that we feel supported. When we want to bring in more love to our home, I’d always suggest cushions and throws. Imagine the kind of support and warmness you feel when you have throws wrapping around you during the chilly weather (Well, I’m in Scotland…any home in Scotland needs a woollen throws!) Ideally you can find cushions that complement the colour of the rest of your furniture, otherwise find some that has a really intriguing pattern that you love.

And think further - you can also bring in some floor cushions, seated cushions to give that extra support and love. I just love lying on the floor on my floor cushion to visualise my dream life

2. Display items you love, AND items that recall the moments you feel loved

What’s better than having constant reminders, symbols that tell you how loved you are? A lot of the time we simply forget about it. Most of my families are back home in Hong Kong, and sometimes I do feel the lack of love in Edinburgh compared to when I was at home. Despite the convenience of technology, I occasionally do miss those hugs, those encouraging words. And I don’t mean just displaying thousands and thousands of family photos.

I’d like us to remember the feeling of love, because feeling is unforgettable, it is infectious, it can transcend time. Therefore in my bookshelf I have a jewelry boxes that I picked together with my best friend, putting nicely next to some of my well-loved books. Is it a coaster that reminds you of all the nice coffee chats you have? Or is it a vase that you have always loved? Put it right in front of where you see it all the time! And everytime when you see it, put your hands on your heart, tell yourself, I am loved. And then that energy will flow in your space

3. Give yourself easy access and convenience

Giving yourself a sense of convenience, easy access and easy flow from one room to another room is an active way of bringing yourself love. No one likes it when the bed and the chest of drawers are so close that you cannot get around with it. Imagine how irritated you might feel. And your home would not be very welcoming if the shoe bench is blocking the entire entrance. It’s time to reposition that!

Surely storage can be problematic for those who live in a small flat (myself included), but it does not mean that we need to pile items that eventually block our ways. There are always storage solutions (I can help you if you want, book a discovery call!) that will give us the space we need. Be creative, reposition your furniture, swap to a bigger/ smaller piece of furniture and see how you feel. It might be a small thing, but you are sending a sign to the universe that you are taking care of yourself and loving yourself by putting yourself at ease

I love this small bedroom I found in pinterest It’s very small but there’s no excess issue. Everything has its place. You can get to bed easily, and turn the light on easily. It just takes some planning!

The more love you shower to that place, the more support you receive

4. Create a wee loving soul space

It has taken me a long time to know that I need to honour my feelings - the bad and the good, the craziness and the calmness. Have a loving soul space corner that is dedicated to self-love. Put spiritual tools there to support you. Put books that give you insights. It does not need to be big. It can just be your bedside table - but make it so crushingly loving! Put flowers, scents, essential oils, anything that gives love. Use this corner to meditate, to connect with your spirit guides.

I would love to invite you to craft a special loving soul space. The more love you shower to that place, the more support you’ll get.

5. Use the colour pink

Pink might not be the cup of tea for most people, for me it definitely wasn’t. However it’s interesting that I subconsciously start to collect more and more pink items when I made it my mission to love myself. I find pink giving me comfort, and in Feng shui, it’s also a colour of love. Colour theory also suggests pink gives sense of love, so put it in your surroundings. I don’t mean that you need to make it a cartoon-y pinky home, we can do it tastefully by having touch of pinks here and there. Maybe a rose quartz together with a pink vase, or a pink curtain with some pink orchid. See what pink items you like - and introduce it!

There are many more ways to bring love to your home. These are some test and proven methods that I’ve harnessed the energy of my home to bring love. Your soul might call differently, and I’d love to learn more about that. Connect with me on instagram and share with me.

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